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  • Finding My Purpose Among People – and My Need for Solitude

    I am surrounded by people all day, every day — at work in stores and at home with my family. I know one of my main purposes in life is to care for my family the best way I know how. But being around people constantly can be overwhelming.

    Even Christ stepped away to be alone with God. If He needed that time, who am I to think I don’t?

    The truth is, people often get on my nerves. At work, customers can be rude and demanding. Sometimes the way people speak to those of us working in the store is unbelievable. I may not say what I’m thinking, but there are moments I choose to walk away rather than engage.

    I don’t give customers attitude, but management can be another story. I won’t allow anyone to treat me poorly. No title makes someone more valuable than another person. At the end of the day, it’s just a grocery store.

    If I’m being honest, I’ve never felt naturally good with people — and I haven’t always had the desire to improve in that area. Yet I feel a pull from the Lord calling me toward a softer heart. And I’ll admit, that’s hard for me. People frustrate me. But I know I’m being asked to grow.

    I need to become kinder and more understanding. I know this. I just haven’t always known how to make it real in my daily life.

    Creating Space to Withdraw and Be Still

    Because of how overwhelming constant interaction can be, I make intentional time to step away from people.

    One of my quiet places is my car. I drive a lot for work, and while driving itself doesn’t feel like solitude, I often stay in my car for a few extra minutes when I arrive somewhere. That time becomes prayer time or devotion time using my phone.

    It requires balance. Sometimes I get so absorbed in prayer that time slips away, so I set a timer to stay responsible with my work schedule.

    Some people call this a “car sanctuary.” I didn’t invent it. Parents, workers, and busy people everywhere have discovered the same thing: sometimes the only quiet place available is inside a parked car. And if that’s what it takes to spend time with God, then that’s what matters.

    At home, there is always noise — the TV, activity, movement. With ADHD, outside noise makes focus extremely difficult. The car becomes my refuge.

    Another place of solitude is a hot bath. It’s one of the few places I know I won’t be interrupted. I lock the door, soak, and pray. It’s simple, but it creates space to breathe and reconnect.

    Staying Focused in a Distracting World

    Maintaining focus in my daily walk with God is not easy. Life pulls us in every direction. Work demands attention. Chronic pain, illness, fatigue, and brain fog make concentration difficult. Add neurodivergence to the mix, and simply getting through the day can feel like an accomplishment.

    This is exactly why quiet time matters so much.

    The difficulty of finding time… the struggle to focus… the exhaustion we carry… none of these are reasons to give up. They are reasons to protect that time even more fiercely.

    God knows us. He sees every struggle. He understands our limitations, our distractions, our exhaustion. There is never a moment where He is frustrated by our effort to come to Him.

    When we feel misunderstood by the world, we can hold tightly to this truth: God understands completely. He knows every burden, every thought, every weakness — and loves us through it all.

    Being with Him does not require anything elaborate. It doesn’t require perfect focus or long hours of devotion. Sometimes it is as simple as saying:

    “God, I am here, and I love You.”

    And sometimes, that is enough.

  • What I Left Behind to Follow Jesus – And Why It Was Worth It

    When I chose to follow Christ, I didn’t just change habits — I left behind an entire way of living. From the outside, it may have looked like I walked away from a fun, carefree life full of parties and freedom. But what I truly left behind was misery, anxiety, and a deep sense of emptiness.

    I had grown used to living however I wanted, whenever I wanted. I searched everywhere for love and validation, giving myself away in hopes that something — or someone — would finally fill the ache inside me. Yet even in that brokenness, God loved me. He loved me long before I acknowledged Him.

    “But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” — Romans 5:8

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  • Why Is It So Hard to Hold on to the Truth

    I was watching The Chosen the other night—one of those quiet scenes that sneaks up on you.

    The disciples were arguing, caught up in themselves, when Jesus walked in. He was exhausted. Worn down. His body clearly carrying the weight of a long day spent healing others. His mother rushed to him, urging him to rest. As he prayed and drifted into sleep, the arguing stopped.

    Everything went quiet.

    In that moment, the disciples saw what really mattered—and what didn’t. Truth had been standing right in front of them the whole time.

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  • When ADHD and the Clock Don’t Agree

    I recently watched a video about Hidden ADD by Aron Croft (https://www.youtube.com/@HIDDENADHD), and it stopped me in my tracks. One point he made felt especially true: people with ADHD often operate on a different internal clock than people without it. We tend to work later, push closer to deadlines, and finish things at times that don’t always line up neatly with expectations.

    That realization got me thinking about how often ADHD is misunderstood—not because people are unkind, but because what’s happening internally isn’t visible.

    From the outside, it can look like nothing has changed. But from the inside, everything feels louder.

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  • When Losing Weight Feels Heavier Than the Weight Itself

    I need to lose weight.

    Even writing that sentence feels loaded. Not because I don’t know it’s true, but because it carries so much history with it—old photos, old bodies, old versions of myself that felt lighter in more ways than one.

    I was thin once. Or at least thinner. I remember what it felt like to move through the world without constantly thinking about my body. When I look back, it’s hard not to compare who I am now to who I was then. Everyone says you should only look forward, but that’s easier said than done when your past body feels like proof that you used to be able to do this.

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  • Learning to Keep Life Simple

    This past week has been difficult. I’ve been struggling with some new health issues — as if I didn’t already have enough going on. Whenever something new jumps into my world, I tend to get overwhelmed by everything else. It’s like the new thing takes all my attention, and everything else starts to feel like just one more problem piled on top.

    I wonder if anyone else does this. Is it an ADHD thing, or just a me thing?

    After feeling sick for days, I finally went to the ER. They ran a bunch of tests, gave me some strong medicine, and then told me my liver counts were high. I was shocked. I don’t drink, I eat carefully, I try to take care of myself — so what in the world was causing this?

    At first, it felt really discouraging. I caught myself thinking, “Oh great… here we go again… woe is me.”

    But after the initial wave of self-pity, something inside me softened. I began to sense that maybe this was God’s reminder to me — a nudge to slow down and keep my life simple.

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  • ADHD Adventure

    Dealing with ADHD is formidable but it is also an adventurous trek that I would not be able to experience any other way. I thank God for the gift of ADHD, even on the days that it makes me appear (and feel) super flakey. 

    There are so many people in the world that think it is just a label we use to cover the fact that we are lazy. There is truly nothing more infuriating. Most people that feel this way have not taken the time to really even try to understand what it means to be an ADHDer. There is so much to it. It is such a fight and at the same time, quite delightful. 

    Some of the main symptoms that adult women with ADHD struggle with are disorganization, feeling overwhelmed, anxiety, depression, issues with money management, struggling with time management, trouble staying focused, putting off boring tasks, and forgetting where you have put things.

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  • Invisible Battles: Enduring with Chronic Illness and Neurodiversity

    Living with both neurodiversity and chronic illness can feel like fighting battles on two fronts; battles no one but you can see. In this blog post, we will explore some of the unique struggles we face—and how Scripture offers comfort, strength, and hope.

    Frequent Struggles of People who Fight Both Battles

    Executive Dysfunction & Lack of Energy Collide:

    Chronic illness causes fatigue, pain, and/or brain fog. Neurodivergence may include executive dysfunction—difficulty getting started, organizing, or following through. Together, you might want to get up and handle your responsibilities—but your body or brain (or both)  just won’t cooperate.

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  • Hard, But Worth It

    My Journey with Chronic Illness, Neurodivergence, and Relentless Grace

    I never planned for my life to look like this—navigating a body that won’t cooperate and a brain that doesn’t play by the rules. Living with both chronic illness and neurodivergence means that even the simplest tasks can feel like climbing mountains with bare feet. But this is my journey. It’s a hot mess, quite painful, and very unpredictable—and still, somehow, it’s blessed. I’m learning that the hard path can also be a wonderful road to learning exactly what God has for me. This blog is where I’ll tell the truth about that road, one adventure at a time.